Would you like a do-over?

Feb 10, 2015
4 min read

Why do we replay the same old stories when we get the opportunity for a second chance everyday?

This is just human nature. There are several reasons we do this.

1. It keeps us in our comfort zone and gives us an excuse to just be the way we've always been. Do you find yourself saying some version of this? 'I messed up that time. I seem to always do that. Oh well. I guess that's just the way I am.'

2. We find it difficult to look at things from a different perspective so we settle for the same thoughts and actions we're used to and that means getting the same results we've been getting. We also may not believe we're capable of better.

3. We're afraid of the unknown. What if I do things differently and it turns out even worse than I think?

4. We're used to the status quo and don't want to rock the boat. That may mean we don't speak up for ourselves, we settle for just good enough or maybe we allow people to negatively influence our thoughts and behaviors.

5. We play small because we're afraid of what people will think.

We keep replaying the same negative thoughts and 'poor me' attitude as a result of this and are constantly wishing we could erase the past. The end result of this is lack of self esteem, being ruled by fear and regret, blaming others, etc. I've been there and it's not a fun place to be and certainly not a place I want to revisit! The good news is we have a choice everyday. We can either start our day in the same way we always do (maybe dreading going to work) or we can choose to be better and do better. We can choose to change the way we look at people and situations; we can look for opportunities to step out of our comfort zone, grow, learn and be an example to others. This shift doesn't happen overnight but it comes from first making a choice and then being aware of our thoughts and being intentional. We may also find that where we are is no longer serving us and we need to move on.

I love the quote 'Don't look back. You're not going that way.' There's nothing wrong with being reflective and learning from our past but there is danger in spending time lamenting over the 'what ifs' and 'what could have or should have been.'

I once heard Oprah say 'Everything that happens to you also happens for you'. As tough as that job or that boss or those co-workers can make our lives, those people are there to teach us lessons. Maybe that's tolerance; maybe it's compassion; maybe it's gratitude; maybe it's challenging us to stand up for ourselves, share our ideas and step out of our comfort zones. It could also be a wake up call to make a change and maybe move on to bigger and better things. The true magic in life happens outside of our comfort zones.

Be your own hero today. Keep your eyes fixed on who you want to be and where you want to be. Ask yourself what you value, what's important to you, what difference do you want to be in this world, what do you have to offer? Dig deep. You were born to be a difference maker. Every one of us has unique gifts and qualities. Your job is to find out what you need to do to make best use of those gifts. That's where true fulfillment and joy comes from and that's the place where you're going to make the biggest contribution. I challenge you to find what you love, what excites you and brings you the most joy. If you haven't found that, it's not too late. You can still make the rest of your life the best of your life. Remember everything you've ever experienced has been a stepping stone in your journey leading you to where you need to be, and it's not over yet...

If you need help in this area and are not sure how to move past your regrets, or if you're unclear on the next step in your career, and if you need the confidence and clarity to move forward boldly, I would love to help. Contact me for a free session to see if I can be of assistance.

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